"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." - Aristotle
"Success is nothing more than a few disciplines, practiced every day. Failure is a nothing more than a few errors, repeated every day." - Jim Rohn
"more than 40 percent of the actions people perform every day aren’t due to decision making, but habits." - Duke University research
"Stop obsessing over the result and start obsessing over showing up"
persistence > perfection
failing > not trying
discipline > motivation
active reading > passive consumption
single task > multi task
one deep read > many shallow reads
handwriting > typing
speak > silence
4. Authenticity: work/life balance
"I know from habit research that the lure of technology, that really quick dopamine hit you get when you have a new notification, is one of the hardest to overcome. It depletes willpower the fastest.” -Urban “Dopamine is really about the anticipation of an event. It’s about seeking, not enjoying. So when that notification pops up – whether it’s the best news in the world, or the most annoying – all your brain knows is there’s something new you can divert your attention to. And when you’re feeling stressed or disconnected, you’re especially susceptible to this.”
“The curious paradox,” wrote the psychologist Carl Rogers, “is that when I accept myself just as I am – then I can change.”
And is there one simple limit you can set during this part of your day? For example, I have a boundary in the morning that I don’t check my phone before my routine is done. So I have a cold shower, work out, do a little meditation, and make myself breakfast. Then I start my day. I think those are the kinds of self-boundaries that can be helpful with working from home.”
So, it would be nice to have a morning habit.
I wake up, I dont touch my phone. Go make breakfast, work out, do devotion, meditate.. work starts at 8am. check the phone then. Work ends at 5pm, stop checking after that. if they wanted something done the next day, they should have planned it ahead.
A war is coming
brain doesn't do well with too much new information (the flaw as per Pantheon series).
improve brain: Dance, Instrument, foreign language, chess, read more of less, hand write
learning: say out loud, test yourself, space out learning, handwrite, change the way, exercise, interleaving (learn different things in succession) , teach others, associative learning (build upon what you already know),
sleep in blocks of 1 and a half hours. either 1.5, 3, 6 hours... dont sleep 7 you'll wake up in the middle of a cycle. 7.5 is good.
focus on changing your mindset. Try counting your blessings before you fall asleep. It sounds cheesy, but research shows that the simple act of writing down three to five things you’re grateful for each day can significantly boost your wellbeing in as little as two weeks. Another positive mindset shift involves becoming more present. Research by Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert and colleagues shows that no matter what we’re doing, we’re usually happier when we’re paying attention. So why not commit to boosting your presence with a few minutes of meditation every morning? Finally, consider switching from a selfish me-me-me mindset to one that’s a bit more focused on others. Study after study shows that people are happier when they’re helping people in need.
people who are self-compassionate eat better, exercise more and are happier with their bodies. They also procrastinate less and bounce back more resiliently after failures.
ON MAKING CHOICES
1. Zero in on what really matters
2. Don't dwell on the small choices
3. Decide as much as you can in advance
4. Get a second (and third, 4th) opinion for the big stuff
5. Be mindful of your emotions, timing of making choies
6. Be thoughtful about how you use pros and cons lists
7. Think of decisions as opportunities
.8 choose your regrets, we can't do everything
reading up on effects of bullying during childhood on an adult.
when i was young, i used to go to andrea's house for BM and science tuition.
with thinakaran and a girl named joey. we had this stupid game, that was to punch each other in the arm and see who gave up first. i said i was going to punch really hard, as if asking for consent, knowing that it was gonna hurt really badly.... we were all skinny back then... i didn't hold back..... i punched with all my strength, (probably because i didn't want the other kid to think that i was weak)... the other kid cried.. i didn't know what to do, so i just ignored the other person in pain, didn't even say sorry, and sorta ran away to the upper living room where the table was...
i think from there on.....
i throw my punches.
i'd rather hit softly and let the other person have fun hitting me as hard as they can.
i can take it
“By combining a temptation with a chore,” Milkman says, “that chore becomes something that’s actually associated with pleasure and you start looking forward to it instead of dreading it.”
January - started with NCR as a contractor
micro goals: stop: picking n, playing games (ish), negative things
start: exercising, look ppl in the eyes when talking to them
Feb - x f, < FB scrolling, s look ppl in eyes, > more say welcome, ask how are you? prep day before
march - look ppl in eyes when talking, respond 'welcome' to tak you, naps, listen.
x talk bad abt ex work place, alpha
April - focus, goals, highlights, thankful.
- study once a day, exercise & stretching, outdoors, meditate, x be malicious (fail)
may nothing in the calender
June - late for work. study once a day, exercise, read more
July - open Git hub Acc (only done in dec), Ruby, Python, Linux
August, September, October, NOvember, December
same four goals. unachieved
"Don’t think about being consistently great. It’s a trap. It’s impossible. Think about being great at being consistent. It’s a reliable path to growth and achieving one’s potential that makes a lot more sense." - Brad Stulberg
