Black or White? A or B?

if neither end is good, why choose to be/remain there

"I feel a strong desire to tell you -- and I expect you feel a strong desire to tell me -- which of these two errors [Totalitarian and Individualist] is the worse. That is the devil getting at us. He always sends errors into the world in pairs -- pairs of opposites. And he always encourages us to spend a lot of time thinking which is the worse. You see why, of course? He relies on your extra dislike of the one error to draw you gradually into the opposite one. But do not be fooled. We have to keep our eyes on the goal and go straight through between both errors." - C.S. Lewis

thanks to Blake for sharing on FB.

so yeah this kinda thing pretty much is tells me that i cant use "Opposites have to exist for things(it contrast) to have definition" for most this post. i think its healthy to be in the middle, a grey zone in things. having a balance of when to show grace and when to practice justice.

something interesting from the captivating book.

"When a man goes bad, every man has in some way gone bad after the Fall, what is most deeply marred is his strength. fallen men tend to sin in one of two ways. He either becomes a passive weak, silent man -strength surrendered, gone away- or he becomes a violent , driven man-strength unglued, gone bad.

when a woman falls from grace, what is most deeply marred is her tender vulnerability, beauty that invites to life. she becomes a dominating, controlling woman -or a desolate, needy, mousy woman. Or some odd combination of both, depending on her circumstances." - excerpt

hmm.. but as a guy, i do like fighting. like physical martial art grappling sorta thing. i guess i just have to control it so that it doesn't get out of hand right? after all, we need to fight for the things that we believe in. it is inside us to wage war, but wage it for a good reason and in the right manner. i also like taking time to be alone, strength gone away? i dont think so.. its more like, recharging for the next fight to come =D so yup, i guess its the skill/wisdom/discernment on how to balance both sides out so that i dont tip the see-saw to an extremity... like beating up random people in fits of rage or sitting quietly sulking in the corner thinking the world doesnt care about me and i can go kill myself aka depression.

plenty of example i could assume about the girl's scenario, but i aint a girl, i have never been through it as one, and will probably never know who it really feels to go through it as one, so gonna skip expounding on that. least i crap up something untrue and get haters =P (any female out there that would like to share your view on this matter?). but one thing i can tell, girls that take charge usually get things done =) what would the world do without them....haha

but if its one thing i've learn, i know i should not generalize. so no prejudice, no speculations... no "this generally applies to every one" (but i do agree it does to some, if not most at a certain degree, especially about the guys part)

this post has two entirely different topics. the top part was about negative errors in pairs. both being bad.  the lower is about 2 paths of being the consequence of the Fall. hmmm...  i guess learning to balance on the see-saw in the park as a kid has its lesson in life.

laos

“Disturb us, Lord, when we are too well pleased with ourselves,
when our dreams have come true because we have dreamed too little,
when we arrive safely because we sailed too close to the shore.

Disturb us, Lord, when with the abundance of things we possess,
we have lost our thirst for the waters of life, having fallen in love with life, we have ceased to dream of eternity, and in our efforts to build a new earth,
we have allowed our vision of the new heaven to dim.

Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly, to venture on wider seas, where storms will show your mastery, where losing sight of land, we shall find the stars. We ask you to push back the horizon of our hopes, and to push us into the future in strength, courage, hope, and love. This we ask in the name of our Captain, who is Jesus Christ. " - Sir Francis Drake

thanks Sarah for posting this on facebook.

btw i just came back from laos, i have to say it was an eye opening experience. it was a good 15 days of getting out of normal life. hopefully life will not be the same after this journey.